Want to get married? Consider keeping separate homes.

A few years ago, I interviewed Doug Sohn as he prepared to shutter Hot Doug’s, his nationally recognized hot dog and sausage shop in Chicago’s Avondale neighborhood. In his early 50s at the time, he decided to close his wildly popular restaurant simply because he wanted to move on to something else before running the shop became “work” for him. I also interviewed his girlfriend …

On Bad-Decision Women and the Weakness of Men

While watching the first season of Lifetime show UnREAL with a young lady, I described Nathalie Kelley’s character Grace, who was essentially crafted by the fake dating show to be the resident Latina sex bomb contestant, as a “bad-decision woman.” She asked me to explain myself. So here I am. A bad-decision woman is preternaturally attractive member of the opposite sex who, through genetics, dedication …

On 2 Dope Queens and “Cultural Blackness”

I recently sat down to two episodes of the new HBO show 2 Dope Queens. Hosted by The Daily Show alum Jessica Williams and comedian Phoebe Robinson, the show is a live stage adaptation of the popular podcast of the same name, on which the two black Millennial girlfriends riff off of each other about any and everything. The podcast was clearly popular enough to …

Black Panther is Crushing Every Record. Thank Black Women for That.

Now that we’re nearly weeks into its release, let’s put the success of Black Panther into perspective. Those of y’all who clogged theater lobbies taking group pictures while donning geles and kente cloth helped shoot the film north of $200 million on its opening weekend. It’s the biggest opening ever for a black director (Ryan Coogler). It’s $520 million first-week take put it ahead of …

Blac Chyna and the Politics of Giving Good Head

I originally intended to wait on writing about this, but Blac Chyna forced my hand. Chyna, former stripper, makeup entrepreneur, reality television “star” and baby mama to Tyga and Rob Kardashian – who are both likely somewhere right now locked an oil wrestling match battling for the mantle of the Wackest Nigga Drawing Breath – made news this week as the subject of a purportedly …

A Black Man Divorced and Dating in his Late 30s – Howboudah?

On Tuesday morning, I was featured in a story for the Chicago Tribune, titled “The Struggle – and Bright Side – of Online Dating for People of Color.” I was chosen as a subject because of a piece about online dating while black that I wrote for Very Smart Brothas last year. The Trib piece happens to coincide with the two-year anniversary of my wife texting me from …

Don’t Throw Out Your CDs Just Yet…Seriously

About a year ago, I put together a “Best of Pete Rock” iTunes playlist. He has a 28-year catalog of consistent (and consistently dope) music, so I knew it would be quite the undertaking. I knew it would be especially tricky considering the Chocolate Boy Wonder has never been a mainstream name, and much of his oeuvre contains hard-to-find tracks for underground 1990s rappers whom …