Monthly Archive: February 2018

Blac Chyna and the Politics of Giving Good Head

I originally intended to wait on writing about this, but Blac Chyna forced my hand. Chyna, former stripper, makeup entrepreneur, reality television “star” and baby mama to Tyga and Rob Kardashian – who are both likely somewhere right now locked an oil wrestling match battling for the mantle of the Wackest Nigga Drawing Breath – made news this week as the subject of a purportedly …

A Black Man Divorced and Dating in his Late 30s – Howboudah?

On Tuesday morning, I was featured in a story for the Chicago Tribune, titled “The Struggle – and Bright Side – of Online Dating for People of Color.” I was chosen as a subject because of a piece about online dating while black that I wrote for Very Smart Brothas last year. The Trib piece happens to coincide with the two-year anniversary of my wife texting me from …

Don’t Throw Out Your CDs Just Yet…Seriously

About a year ago, I put together a “Best of Pete Rock” iTunes playlist. He has a 28-year catalog of consistent (and consistently dope) music, so I knew it would be quite the undertaking. I knew it would be especially tricky considering the Chocolate Boy Wonder has never been a mainstream name, and much of his oeuvre contains hard-to-find tracks for underground 1990s rappers whom …

These New Rappers Don’t Give a Damn About Their Future

I’m an early-1980s baby, which put me squarely in the crosshairs of Nancy Reagan’s “Just Say No” anti-drug use campaign. It was quite effective on me – during my formative years, I was entirely convinced that smoking marijuana would lead me down a path of self-destruction and utter iniquity; I figured just one snort of cocaine would kill me instantly. Decades later, I’m still scared …

If You Buy One of These “Realistic” Sex Dolls, I’m Flaming You Forever

Look, I’ve finally reached my ceiling of tolerance with some of you filthy niggas. Within the last couple weeks, I’ve seen more pictures of sex dolls – along with declarations of what black dudes would like to do to these dolls – poison my social media feeds than I would care for. The trend would suggest that fake, anatomically correct replicas of women designed solely …

A Guide to Dating Single Moms (From Someone Who’s Dated Quite a Few)

There are two under-the-radar comedies that are off-season now, but worth the binge as we await their return: Showtime’s SMILF and FX’s Better Things. Both shows have very similar conceits: women hilariously navigate work, dating, family while also raising children alone. They also share DNA in that they’re both semiautobiographical accounts of their stars – Better Things’ Pamela Adlon and SMILF’s Frankie Shaw – who …