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If you consult astrology when dating, I can’t take you seriously

As a kid in the 1980s, I had a large, hardcover book called Stars & Planets that offers a foundational understanding of our solar system and the universe. The book taught me, among other things, about red dwarves and black holes; the relative size of moons to their planets and how oxygen and gravity work. It drove home how infinitesimally small my humanity is in …

The Trouble with Holding Our Stupidity Against Us

I recently had a conversation with Max, my tattoo artist, about how he feels his earlier pieces are trash compared to what he puts together now. I told him I feel the same way about my writing. I’ve gotten better technically and ideologically throughout the years; I flatly dismiss quite a few of the pieces I’ve written. The difference is, Max’s thousands of tattoos are scattered throughout the world, under the …

Fuck the Club

When my ace Thomas came in town this past summer, we did as we often do when he comes: linked up at Bar Takito, one of my favorite West Loop haunts, with a group of homies. It was a beautiful evening to be on an outdoor patio – mad shit was talked as the overpriced margaritas flowed and the chips and guac were reduced to …

Want to get married? Consider keeping separate homes.

A few years ago, I interviewed Doug Sohn as he prepared to shutter Hot Doug’s, his nationally recognized hot dog and sausage shop in Chicago’s Avondale neighborhood. In his early 50s at the time, he decided to close his wildly popular restaurant simply because he wanted to move on to something else before running the shop became “work” for him. I also interviewed his girlfriend …

On Bad-Decision Women and the Weakness of Men

While watching the first season of Lifetime show UnREAL with a young lady, I described Nathalie Kelley’s character Grace, who was essentially crafted by the fake dating show to be the resident Latina sex bomb contestant, as a “bad-decision woman.” She asked me to explain myself. So here I am. A bad-decision woman is preternaturally attractive member of the opposite sex who, through genetics, dedication …

On 2 Dope Queens and “Cultural Blackness”

I recently sat down to two episodes of the new HBO show 2 Dope Queens. Hosted by The Daily Show alum Jessica Williams and comedian Phoebe Robinson, the show is a live stage adaptation of the popular podcast of the same name, on which the two black Millennial girlfriends riff off of each other about any and everything. The podcast was clearly popular enough to …

Black Panther is Crushing Every Record. Thank Black Women for That.

Now that we’re nearly weeks into its release, let’s put the success of Black Panther into perspective. Those of y’all who clogged theater lobbies taking group pictures while donning geles and kente cloth helped shoot the film north of $200 million on its opening weekend. It’s the biggest opening ever for a black director (Ryan Coogler). It’s $520 million first-week take put it ahead of …